Don't Apologise for Needing to Feel Safe

Just don't do that. There's a reason you need to feel safe. Very good reason. The cause of honorable, correct and quite reasonable. So, please don't apologize.

Don't make it "something" for others to manipulate you. Do not allow them to "guilty" in a sense of dismay.

Do not legitimize misconduct. Don't give in to behavior that is just a different form of abuse.

Don't give in to someone who is unreliable at best, violent - and by violence, I don't mean physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, socially, verbally and spiritually - at worst.

So many prohibitions!

Sometimes we don't have more power to empower us.

However, if you feel appalled, guilty or wrong, please do not judge yourself. You're not the wrong person in this situation. Yes, you are able to be wrong; don't get me wrong. But if you're the only person who ever made a mistake, there's something wrong with that.

Your desire for safety will quickly turn into a request if your desire is not met, and you may experience abuse with abuse, just because you are desperate to be safe. Unlike other "sins", however, when this response is produced by shocking, you are not a bad person. Unfortunately, others may be affected by how you feel, but this is also not really your fault, although you are allowed to empathize with how you feel as a result. What you feel and how you have influenced them, unless you insist on manipulating this "mistake." A safe person, although likely to be harmed, will give you the opportunity to repair the relationship.

Actually, that's it. That's all it makes sense. Kindness. For one and all. Leave the moment. Get safe. Go back to the present. Be safe that's all that matters. Safety for one, safety for all. Safety for all is the only sustainable peace it deserves to fight for. We feel safe when we make a house with compassion. Empathy is a relational safety environment.