How would you feel? Do you laugh out loud at your wife's audacity? Who played golf all day?
Looking at this position above, one can easily feel as if it has been taken for granted, and then judged. The pair, on the other hand, can be just teasing. It may or may not be noticed a cleaner and cleaner home? It's hard to tell.
That is the thing, it is very difficult to know where other people come from when they express comments in this way when we finish our own fatigue and experiences. Easy to feel the victim.
Often when we feel we take it for granted, it feels because we are not recognized or verified. Maybe no one showed any thanks for a long time? It's easy to fall into this situation of misery when it happens.
Throwing a tantrum is not an obvious solution. Don't make the decision to stop doing what you were doing - because stopping means you're trying to punish the other party (s), and that means that in the end you'll just punish yourself.
The easiest and hardest thing for most people, is to make their feelings known to others. It is extremely important to tell them, so that you feel taken for granted, even if you do not intend to do so. Tell them that you will appreciate or thank you all the time.
By showing gratitude, they acknowledge that you care and in turn will inspire you to do more and enjoy it more. It's a win-win situation. People, they don't have this thinking: they should know better, they should automatically thank me and why should I mention them.
This kind of thinking is what makes things worse. Yes, we recognize that people should know better, however, we are all preoccupied with life. And if our emotional needs are not met, such as simple validation of our loved ones, then we must make them known. If we can't do it with our loved ones, how will we be able to better serve the rest of our community / world?
Our request to meet our emotional needs puts us in a more vulnerable position, and we humans, tend to avoid it at all costs. Because we are afraid of rejection. But asking for it also comes with big rewards - better communication, stronger communication, a sense of fulfillment, a feeling of love, and it gives the other party a chance to express gratitude.
To ask your loved ones to show you some appreciation and love is not desperate. It is a generous act that doubles gratitude in both directions
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